Everything You Need to Know About Dating a Scorpio

That photo with your ex you posted on Instagram in 2013? Scorpio’s already seen it.

Uh-oh—have you been seduced by a Scorpio? Join the club! Literally no one can resist the allure of this intriguing, enchanting water sign. Just like its namesake, the enigmatic scorpion, these infamous arachnids are the ultimate shadow-dwellers, who are known for their mysterious sensibilities. When you’re tangled up with a Scorpio, you can expect to experience passion like never before…but it will always come at a cost. So how can you prepare for Scorpio’s riveting romance? Don’t worry—I’ve got you covered!

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In modern astrology, Scorpio is ruled by Pluto—the distant planet that governs profound, cataclysmic transformation. (ICYMI, astronomy and astrology are not the same: Although Pluto has been demoted in astronomy, it’s still identified as a planet in astrology!) In Roman mythology, Pluto (and the Greek counterpart, Hades) is the god of the underworld—but don’t worry, there’s no reason to get scared! Although we often imagine the underworld as a place of fire and brimstone, it’s not nearly as sinister in astrology. In fact, the underworld is a regenerative space where phoenixes rise from the ashes and Scorpio—elusive and complex—experiences a powerful metamorphosis.

You get the idea: Scorpio is deep AF. And they take relationships seriously: They’re looking for a partner who will challenge them intellectually, emotionally, and sexually. For Scorpio, an intimate relationship has the power to unlock new psychological dimensions, transmitting both themselves and their lover into totally uncharted territory. When bonded with this water sign, prepare to dive into the nooks and crannies of your psyche.

As you could imagine, however, building this type of relationship requires incredible trust. After all, Scorpio would never expose their truths to just anyone—their secrets aren’t casual! Accordingly, Scorpio enters into new bonds slowly and cautiously. Before they commit, Scorpio needs to ensure that (1) you can handle their intensity and (2) you won’t flake out. So before Scorpio makes anything “official,” they’ll conduct a series of tests to gauge both your emotional tolerance and level of loyalty.

Oh, you didn’t know Scorpio was conducting rigorous experiments? Of course you didn’t! Scorpio will never reveal their rubric—I mean, that would totally defeat the purpose, right? But don’t worry: It’s easy to tell how you scored. If you passed, you’ll find yourself in an honest, supportive, and intimate relationship with this mysterious shadow-dweller. And if you failed, well…you’re probably still left on read.


Only after you successfully complete the rigorous examination training program first few weeks months of dating will you truly know how this water sign behaves in a relationship. While each Scorpio lover is unique in their approach, you can certainly expect this infamous arachnid to reveal their powerful intuition. In fact, Scorpio is one of the most psychic signs of the zodiac. Unlike the other water signs (Cancer and Pisces), however, Scorpio actually converts instinct into power—they’re fueled by their emotions.

Because Scorpio is propelled by etheric data (nonphysical information, such as body language, tone of voice, and general ~vibes~), they’re always reading between the lines. For this mysterious sign, everything is a symbol…and every symbol is significant. Scorpio investigates everything, so be hyper-aware of how you’re communicating. You may have thought you were sending an innocent emoji, but for Scorpio, that particular smiley face is a loaded gesture. The next thing you know, that haphazard emoji is sending Scorpio down a cavernous rabbit hole (that’s the exact same emoji when you posted a comment on your ex’s picture back in 2014!!!), and just like that, they’re suddenly questioning everything.

In fact, when this water sign feels nervous or threatened, Scorpio becomes consumed by their shadowy Plutonian sensibilities. Scorpio can become shady, sneaky, and even a little creepy (this sign wrote the book on “internet stalking research”). If you start noticing this behavior in your Scorpio lover, be sure to call it out right away: Once exposed, Scorpio will resist the urge to indulge these qualities. If their clandestine gestures go unnoticed, however, Scorpio can’t help but indulge, compounding more and more secrets until—the next thing you know—they’ve built an entire new reality in total darkness. Yikes!


Some Scorpios are easy to spot. They’re like a femme fatal character in a film noir, sitting at the edge of a bar, hidden beneath a wide-brim hat, an oversize trench coat, and a glass of top-shelf whiskey. These classic arachnids are attracted to all that lives in the shadows, and likewise, they’re turned on by dark, mysterious lovers peppered with a hint of danger. How scandalous!

But not all Scorpios identify with this moody archetype. In fact, Scorpios can also be bright, joyful people who love bright colors, positive affirmation, and upbeat pop music. This type of Scorpio would likely be turned off by excessively emo energy, so there’s no reason to layer on the black eyeliner. That look is trying way too hard.

No matter how your Scorpio lover dresses, one thing’s for sure: All Scorpios have an acute sense of smell. In an almost animalistic way, this water sign can derive tons of emotional data from scent: They can smell both fear and desire. If you’re trying to impress this passionate lover, experiment with different colognes, perfumes, and essential oils. Explore fragrances that have some classic signature notes that are both elegant and alluring (some great examples are musk, frankincense, myrrh, and amber). But unless you can do it the right way, don’t even think about showing up for your first date dripping in cheap body spray: Scorpio will not just be turned off, they’ll actually be totally nauseated. Check, please!


So, are you ready to partner up with the most notorious sign of the zodiac? Fellow water signs—Cancer and Pisces—are totally up for the challenge. As emotional signs, Cancer understands Scorpio’s unique sensitivities, while Pisces admires Scorpio’s psychic powers. However, it may be hard for Leo and Aquarius to pass Scorpio’s rigorous examinations. Outgoing Leo is suspicious of Scorpio’s secretive tendencies, and intellectual Aquarius thinks Scorpio takes things way too personally. When coupled, these signs must work extra hard to ensure no one feels misunderstood!

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